What do these two guys have in common? Much more than what we would think!
I recommend you to spare 56 minutes of your week and listen to this podcast (you just have to click the play button below). Some of the pieces of wisdom in the interview are life-changing.
Prepare to open up your heart while you listen to this amazing interview that Lewis Howes (former pro athlete, motivational speaker and personal lifestyle consultant) did with Dr. Sean Stephenson (board certified therapist, author and speaker), an awesome person who was born with a rare disease called Osteogenesis Imperfecta. Actually doctors said to his parents that he would be dead within the first 24 hours of his life.
Sean starts with a great piece of advice: “You don’t always want to believe experts. They don’t know everything.”
When he was 18 years old he had already broken bones 200 times due to his illness. This is a man who had to deal with lots of pain, both physically and emotionally because of the discrimination he has suffered.
It was very inspiring to me when Sean tells that he feels he chose this ‘container’ (his body) and that if you survive pain, it makes you so much stronger. The best way to get over a painful situation or painful feelings is to go through it, eventhough it’s not easy.
One of the positive side effects of going through pain is that you have a tremendous amount of compassion and patience. With every injury you have, you also have healing. So, if we look at it this way, Dr. Stephenson has had more healing than most human beings have in their entire life.
Lewis Howes asks great questions and one of them was: why do you think so many people have a hard time healing?
Dr. Stephenson’s answer was very revealing and awe-inspiring to me: “because of their ego. They want to be right, they want to control it, they are attached to being healed, and healing doesn’t work that way. Healing comes from surrender. The most pain I ever had was when I tried not to be in pain. When you surrender you ask yourself, what’s this teaching you, what’s the lesson, what’s its purpose here. And when you go into pain with the mentality of ‘what do you have for me’, then you get rid of the self pitty. The worst part about pain, whether emotional or physical, is when you feel sorry for yourself, because it makes it worst.”
Another important topic they touched is the identity issue that comes when we can’t keep doing what we have always done: if I’m not…what am I? Who am I without my spouse/my kid/my company/my sports career…?
Sean has found that ‘Infinite’ is the only word that encompasses what we really are. ‘I am infinite’. “We are just experiencing being a parent, having a company, being an athlete, but what we really are is infinite. We are even only experiencing happiness in a given moment. Sometimes we are going to feel angry, or sorry for ourselves, and sometimes you will feel that nothing can stop you. And when you have that mentality of ‘I’m infinite’, it doesn’t come that guilt when you are feeling that who you are being and what you are doing don’t match up perfectly.”
And here some of the other well-thought questions that Lewis asked him and you don’t want to miss the answers:
- What do you think is the most important thing for people to focus on in their lives?
- What’s your thought on unconditional love?
- What about acceptance and non-judgement? It’s that possible?
- How to leave anyone breathless?
And these some of the topics that they talked about:
- What you resist, persists.
- Vulnerability: the most powerful quality to connect with another person.
- The metaphore of living in the scuba diving world vs. the snorkeling world.
- Feeling secure on your own skin and knowing that you are enough.
- How the scariest things to overcome are on the inside.
- The definition of greatness.
For me the most inspiring thing of all was to hear that healing comes from surrender and I’m going to put that into action.
What resonated with you? What are you going to put into practice? (Please, leave a comment below to inspire us and practice your vulnerability)